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WATCH YOUR MOUTH! How the words you choose can create a positive or negative response.

Building your business is scary, especially in the business. You want to make your investment a HUGE success immediately! YOU love the product, the people, the mission, the company, and you can’t wait to share it! But the problem starts to reveal itself quickly! You don’t understand why your business may not be growing. Why do people show interest then disappear? One of the biggest challenges in starting your business is building confidence. Having a strong self and level of confidence in what you do know will carry more weight in trying to learn everything about the company and trying to explain it all to your contact.

You don’t need to know everything about the company. Period.

Think of when you started a new job. The BIG one, the one you first got out of college, the one where it’s your “career”. That first day, that first week, that first month; were you required to be an expert? To have all the systems down? To know everyone’s name and their job title and description? To have all the products memorized, know the ingredients or how it was made? Obviously, the answer is, no! If your employer expected this of you, they surely are not doing a great job with being a leader in management position.
Wasn’t it funny when you finally discovered that bathroom that was just around the corner, super close to you, when you had been walking clear across the building as that was the only bathroom you knew? Or how easy it was when you figured out how to finally use the client database when it was like a foreign language to you at the start?

Why am I bringing this up? Because I’d like for you to feel what you should feel when you start something new. You can’t know it all, and you won’t know where all the bathrooms are I.e: shortcuts.
So stop trying to be an expert, success, know it all. Just be confident in what you do know and what you are passionate about. Now, this leads me to the REAL topic at hand.

When speaking with someone about the possible option of joining your business, working with you, or buying this product, the choice of words you use tell the story. Wouldn’t you love to have your next conversation hidden camera video taped? You could learn so much! How your body language is. What you say. If you are confident. If you puke all over them with details and more details. If you even ask them a question or let them talk. If you know what their primary need or interest is.

Keep it simple. Stay confident in what you do know and what you are passionate about. The choice of words you use will bring up the feeling for result in the conversation. If you tend to speak with negative words, (it’s not this….you aren’t….you don’t have to that…it isn’t going to be…) you will create a wall and a negative feeling for the person you are speaking to.
You help them feel what you want them to feel all by the words you are choosing.

Nothing feels worse than the feeling of defending yourself or your business in a conversation. If you have moved the conversation into this direction, pause, and nicely end the conversation. You won’t ever be able to convince a negative nelly as well as someone who just doesn’t believe in your mission.

Keep it simple, keep it positive, and keep the conversation about them. It’s not about you.

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Portion Sizes – Measuring is Critical for Weight Loss Success

I recently hired a natural bodybuilder to set me up with a diet plan. As I get older, I find I have to tweak my nutrition plan to get the results I’m looking for. I typically do not stay lean all the time and have to lean out for certain events or video filming. So in this occasion, I was curious on how my body would react with something specifically structured for me.
The diet plan was pretty bodybuilder basic 101. He had me eating 6 small meals a day and drinking at least 150 oz of water.

I was getting results, slowly but surely. But then my body hit a stall. The weight wasn’t moving for 3-4 days and I didn’t look any different either. The problem lies in my serving sizes. I wasn’t measuring, just eyeballing. Hey, I’m a fitness professional, I know what 4oz is. I can figure this out. I THOUGHT my husband threw out my manual scale when we moved from NY to TX. He always hated that thing. I went searching for it again deep in the cabinets, and found it!

To my surprise and madness, I was overeating on serving sizes! Sometimes 3-4 times the amount! Pictured here I was suppose to eat 2.5 oz Chicken and 3 oz Yam. As you can see my “guessing plate” and the “measured plate” on how I was way off!

So many of my meals throughout the day consisted of having 1oz of peanuts with the meals. Well, boy do I love peanuts! And the daily increase of an extra peanut or 10 surely made a difference when you times that by multiple meals in a day! No wonder I wasn’t losing weight! Even an extra couple hundred calories a day can make all the difference. Here was another one of my meals and how off I was:

So what does this all mean? YES, weighing and measuring is THAT important for your weightloss success! Even a fitness professional like myself can get it wrong. Invest in a digital scale (btw, I did throw out my manual cheap one after I bought a digital). It will seriously make all the difference in your hard efforts. By delaying measuring, is only delaying the success of your efforts and hard work.

Lose the Fat! How to get into shape after having a baby

How old is your baby? Well if you are like me after having a baby, there’s only a certain amount of time that passes before you feel embarrassed or silly saying, “I just had a baby” as your excuse as to why you are out of shape. It’s been said that it takes your body at least 1 year to be back to “normal” after having a baby. But, there are so many factors that decide what your shape will be. For me, I worked my butt off to get the weight off without compromising “supply” for nursing. That meant I couldn’t restrict my calories so aggressively to strip the fat off as fast as I would want. And let’s be honest here people, there is that slight mental advantage where you do allow for indulgences as you have that excuse for being out of shape, right?

But sometimes you just have to face it, take control, and get yourself back to healthy with no more excuses.
So what is the best way to lose the baby fat? And FAST! I mean I need it gone next week! Right? I know, I’ve been there! Assuming you have checked with your doctor and are in the clear to go for it, it can be a huge variable depending on your situation. But in general, it’s all trial and error in figuring out how to lose the weight.

I always get asked for help from people to lose weight. It’s a loaded question- because there are so many variables. Also, honesty is something some people don’t want to honestly admit all the time how they may not be living up to their end of the deal on exercise, or their diet is all over the board, or how they think a “this won’t hurt” bite of that won’t hurt their efforts. Well, it does.
As we get older, I tend to find that what worked for me last year, may not work exactly this year. General problems that people come across is they put so much ‘weight’ into the exercise portion of their results. Yes, exercise IS important, but I have seen many bodies come my way who exercise all the time, and they still look the same. The topic of your choice of exercise, is a WHOLE other topic. General rule and guideline we’ll go with right now, is to make sure you are exercising 5-6 times a week, both weight resistance and cardio.

When it comes to really transforming your body, your results are mostly dependent on what you do with your nutrition. You can try and take any fatloss pill to accelerate or stimulate fatloss, but that still doesn’t work if your nutrition is a mess.

TRUTHS
-YES, “that” will derail your efforts! – We nibble extra calories all the time and don’t think they add up, but seriously just having a couple hundred calories each day, adds up. Not to mention the off the wagon of blowing this day may play on your mind as you binge on all the goodies you have wanted because you will start again Monday.

– Water IS important! Generally try to get about 80-100oz a day.

 It IS important to measure! Get the measuring spoons, cups, and scale out because you will be amazed at what an actual serving is!

MY SUGGESTED/RECOMMENDED GUIDELINES:
1) Figure out what your daily caloric intake should be for a low activity day.This is the lowest amount of calories you will eat per day, and no, it’s not 1200 calories for everyone.
*Average a couple hundred extra calories on top of your low calorie range, and eat that amount about every 3-4 days in rotation.

2) Suggest dividing up 5-6 mini meals. Get away from calling them 3 meals and a snack. The brain will work more efficiently if you can keep it easier to count. Suggest keeping your mini-meals about the same amount of calories each time you eat.

3) Be sure to pair up your food with a carb/protein/fat almost every meal you eat. Generally have your starchy carbs in your morning meals and have your fibrous carbs in your afternoon/evening meals. Be sure to keep good fats in your diet and sometimes in each meal. Be careful to not have too much of a serving of the fats when you do, use your caloric range on each meal to guide you on how much.

4) If you stay up late, then you need to eat! If you are a night owl, gage that your last meal should be about 3 hours before bedtime. If you go to bed at 1am, then yes, you can eat at 10pm. Be sure to choose a fibrous carb and protein in this time. Or straight protein works well here too. If you aren’t sure what to have, go basic with greens and lean meat. Or you can make it easy and fix a protein shake.

These are some basic guidelines and the mistakes people tend to make when looking to lose the weight.
Important to get your vitamins, Omega’s, and suggest CLL.

I’m not a nutritionist, just a fitness professional. Just sharing what I have learned along the way.

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